Closure

I remember the first time someone told me about closure.

We've knew each other for maybe a year or two, and that was enough time for the friendship wheel to dry up. I'm sure we were annoying each other more than building ourselves up and I had just been avoiding her every chance I had.

Then when I reached out saying I wanted to check she responded saying she understood if I wanted to do 'a closure'.

I was not young, but honestly never even considered such thing. In my mind when you meet someone and develop some sort of friendship for a while, you have some sort of bond. I never considered just 'closing' it. 

For me it's like 'Yes we don't need to speak everyday, but we can say hello every now and then'.

It was a shock to me to learn that closure is a thing that people do regularly like they finish a project at work. 

It's one of those things in life that I need to learn to accept, but I don't think I'll ever understand. However, because it hurts me so much, I've embraced it. What's the point of me trying to keep any sort of bond with someone who doesn't want anything to do with me anymore? It's just hurtful to me.

So I've been closing away. Because sadly in life, and more and more nowadays, we have very little patience or flexibility to have people in our lives that we don't 100% agree to. People are more and more entitled and honestly that entitlement is only creating more silos.

But that's ok. I accepted this closure thing is a self-care thing for me. I just go silent and move on.